![]() Years ago a friend, who was in her mid-eighties at the time, tried to coach me in the art of flirting. I don’t recall that it was very successful. I do recall that SHE was the one that was dating, not me. I think her directions involved making eye contact and smiling in a back and forth manner. The friend that I was walking with this morning suggested that the tone of the voice is important. The way that Joey on the show “Friends” says “How YOU doin’?” comes to mind or a modified Marilyn Monroe voice. I wouldn’t feel comfortable doing either of them. Not only do I have difficulty flirting, my internal radar that is supposed to pick up flirting signals from the opposite sex is not very good either. When I think of past encounters, I realize that I completely missed opportunities to connect with men who were flirting with me. I remember one time a very nice guy saw me struggling trying to load stuff from a lumber store onto the top of my car and offered to load it into his truck. He drove it over to my school where I was setting up my room for a new school year. He was new to the area and we chatted briefly but I was in tunnel vision mode trying to fix up my classroom. It was only after he had gone that I realized he was flirting. I can’t believe I missed an opportunity to meet someone at the lumber yard. I have a thing about hardware stores and lumber yards and the men that frequent them. When the show “Home Improvement” was on TV I loved the character Al. I even went to a Home Show at the local fairgrounds where he was appearing and got his autograph. I am hoping that the changes I feel at this age, being more accepting of myself and more open to new possibilities in my life, will make me less likely to miss an opportunity to meet someone in the lumber yard or any other place. I still don’t feel like dating material. I feel OK about the way I look in the photos from my nephew’s wedding but I don’t think I look like a “hot babe” either. My housemate, who is talking from a man’s perspective, assures me that men my age aren’t looking for a “hot babe” in the way they were when they were younger. He reminded me that the best way to connect with people, men or women, is by doing the things you love. That’s encouraging. It’s something I do naturally, unlike flirting.
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